Questions
Don't Men Get Erections?
This is probably
the most-asked, and definitely one of the most debated, questions
regarding nudism. Don't guys get erections? What should they do
if they do?
Let me begin
by stating one thing which may surprise you. This is generally
more of an issue of theoretical debate, rather than an issue in
real life. Why? Because erections do not occur that commonly in
a nudist environment. As a friend of mine used to say, "It
usually just doesn't come up."
Because textile
(non-nudist) society has generally considered nudity to be a prelude
or invitation to sexual activity, the assumption is that men will
be sexually aroused by the sight and/or presence of nude women.
However, that is not generally the case in a nudist environment.
I believe
this is for several reasons:
• In a nudist
environment, nudity is not the first step towards engaging in
sexual activity. Once it is realized that there will be no sex,
the likelihood of arousal is greatly diminished. This realization
often occurs even before entering a nudist environment, particularly
in such situations where club rules are handed out or where an
individual has done research prior to visiting a nudist beach
or other setting.
• Nudist bodies
are everyday. Most nudists do not have bodies which look like
the bodies of models or movie stars or Playboy bunnies. Men conditioned
to be excited by specific body types will find nudists to be extremely
average.
• Nude bodies
do not have the sexually-emphasizing 'enhancements' brought on
by much clothing. As just one example, there are no push-up bras
and/or plunging necklines drawing attention to a woman's breasts.
There is nothing that "reveals most, but covers a little"...
which ironically serves to draw attention to the little which
is covered.
• There are
rules and manners which proscribe being among others with an erection,
and which may lead to expulsion or ostracism. The knowledge of
this discourages men from having erections.
• In a nudist
environment, it quickly becomes obvious that you are dealing with
real people and engaging in everyday activities. Generally, playing
volleyball or having a picnic with friends would not lead to arousal.
This is true in a nudist environment also.
What's
the difference between a nudist and a naturist?
The word 'nudist'
is more common in the US. The word 'naturist' is more common in
many other English-speaking countries.
In the US,
the word 'nudist' has been more commonly associated with AANR
(the American Association for Nude Recreation), the International
Naturist Federation affiliate. The word 'naturist' is more commonly
associated with The Naturist Society.
Lots of people
like to say that one is more about a hobby and the other is more
about a lifestyle. However, there's no agreement which is which!
Likewise. some people will argue that one is more about being
nude in manmade environments, and the other is more about being
nude in natural environments. However, once again, there's no
agreement which is which.
Therefore,
my answer to the question (which others will undoubtedly argue
with) is that there is no difference between "nudist"
and "naturist". (Which is not the same as saying there
is no differences between AANR & TNS.).
What about when a woman has her period?
This is another
commonly asked, and entirely reasonable, question. The answer
is that practice varies from woman to woman.
All nudist
camps, even those which are nudity-mandatory, permit women to
wear shorts or bikini bottoms during menstruation. (Please note,
however, that wearing only underwear is generally considered unacceptable.)
This allows women to go through their period in the same manner
they would choose in the textile world.
Some women
who use tampons will continue to go nude during their period.
This often raises questions about the string, and the answer once
again varies from woman to woman. Some do nothing different than
if they were clothed. Others take simple measures, such as trimming
the string shorter or coloring it to match their hair color.
What Should Men Do If They Get an Erection?
It might happen.
There are
lots of reasons men can get erections aside from sexual arousal.
Merely waking up in the morning, the pressure from eating a large
meal, certain medication, and many other things cause erections.
The simple
answer is "be polite". The absolute wrong thing to do
is to call attention to your erection... so don't throw back your
shoulders and stroll down the waterline at the beach! (It's a
great way to get yourself run off the beach or kicked out of the
club.)
The right
thing to do is simple... anything which makes the erection private
until it subsides. This might inlcude rolling over onto your face
while lying down, placing a towel on your lap while sitting, moving
to deeper water when swimming, or excusing yourself and walking
away.
Of course,
if your erection is due to sexual arousal, it's important to remind
yourself that nudism is about nonsexual social nudity. For some
it may be necessary to remove yourself from the presence of others
until your sexually arousing thoughts have diminished.
If you observe
this little bit of etiquette, an unanticipated erection will give
you no problem in the nudist world.
I'm New. Will I Be Forced to Go Nude Right Away?
This varies,
although in most cases the answers is "no".
On public
lands like beaches or public hot springs nobody can force you
to be nude. There may be some gentle social pressure to be nude.
After all, that's why people go to a nude beach. However, the
choice is entirely yours. The only exception I know of is Cape
d'Agde in France, where the law requires nudity on the beach.
At private
resorts, campgrounds, and clubs the rules will vary. If clothing-optional,
the obvious answer is that nudity will not be required. Note that
some may call themselves "clothing-optional" but still
require nudity in the swimming pool or hot tub.
If "nudity
required", a very few will require you to undress when you
arrive. However, most will allow first time visitors an adjustment
period which can range anywhere from the length of a short tour
of the facility up to several days' visit. Some allow first-time
visitors to remain dressed outside of the pool or hot tub, but
still require nudity for those places.
Your best
bet is always to call ahead and ask. That way there's no confusion
and no surprises.
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